Time goes by so fast. I look at my kids and think to myself, “Weren’t they just born yesterday? What happened?” I get a little teary eyed…and then I think about all the free time I’ll have when the kids are more self-sufficient. Hmmm….
But back to the mushy gushy stuff.
Time is flying by. And I have asked those older and wiser then me, “What can I do to hold on to time? To make it precious?” And almost every one of them has told me the same thing: Take life one day at a time and make each day count.
1) Slow down. Most things in life do not have to be completed in one day, one week, or one year. I have a lifetime. Or more specifically, my kids’ lifetime. I do not need to sign my son up for baseball, basketball, and soccer when he’s 5 so I can ensure that he will have a scholarship when he goes to college. For one thing, what if God doesn’t have that goal in mind for my son? And secondly, in all the traveling to games, plus school, plus church activities, time vanishes for families. And then there is the ballet and gymnastics for the daughter. Not only is time flying away, but the family is split. I desire for my kids to be involved in great activities, but I want to be smart about it and not allow the activities to rule our home. God rules our home. I want to keep it that way.
2) Don’t stress out about things. If I’m running late, then I am going to be late. I’m not going to stress about it. If my daughter chooses to wear plaid with stripes and have 4 pony tails….it really is ok! So she looks funny. When I get stressed, then I become anxious, and then I begin to bark out orders and the tears begin to flow. I have to ask myself, “Is this really worth the fight?” Most things aren’t.
3) Be urgent. This seems contradictory to #1, but it’s the truth. I need to keep in mind that life is finite and that I don’t know when the Lord will call me home. I have been given this gift of life and must use the time wisely. What is THE MOST important thing the people around me need from me today? I must be compelled, motivated, urgent in what I do. I could die today. This urgency has caused me to teach the gospel with more passion, homeschool, begin this blog, and lead women’s Bible studies for discipleship.
4) Be intentional. Think about what is most important and then plan to make it happen. In my family, teaching the word of God and seeing my kids get saved is the goal. So my husband and I are doing everything we can to do our part so God can work in the lives of our children. In our world this mean homeschooling with a focus on the scriptures and Christian worldview. We are also involved in a Bible believing church, which allows for teaching, correction, service, and discipleship.
5) Make memories. You know all those things that were planned for #3? These are the results, the memories, photo albums, the blog and Facebook posts, after choosing to be intentional. My family does these things, but we also keep a notebook. THE Notebook. It is kept in a special location (the kitchen drawer) and whenever something happens, ie, the kids say a cute line, a special moment passes between father and son, mom feels the need to write a letter to one of the kids to read when they are older, then those moments are recorded. Memories can be good or bad, and are worth remembering.
6) Tell stories. Kids LOVE bedtime stories, especially if they are true stories about themselves. But this is another way to keep the past fresh. My husband is great at this! He tells stories about his own childhood and about lessons he’s learned from people. He tells stories about each child. Some are funny. Some are heart wrenching. This is a great way to teach children about their personal history. It’s also a wonderful tribute to family members who have already passed.
The older I get the verses in Ecclesiastes become more real to me. There really is a time for everything. Am I perfect in all of these things? Absolutely not. I’m a work in progress.
We all have the same 24 hours each day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. But the only time we can truly count on is now, THIS minute.
And I want to make THIS minute count for something.